loving with insecurities

I have been tossing the idea around my head all day today on whether or not I was going to follow through and actually write a post on insecurities; mainly because it's a tricky topic to cover. Everyone has at least one thing- if not multiple things- they are insecure about. You may or may not be able to tell this by knowing and/or conversing with this person- but I can guarantee that one is there.

Once you learn that you cannot hide from your insecurities. If you are insecure about something- good!!!!! That is what is making you human. You just have to own and embrace those. Anyone who uses these insecurities against you is NOT worth your time. One of my friends posted something on instagram last night about an 8 year old girl telling her she was not pretty because "you cannot see your collar bones". I don't know what she thinks is pretty but being able to see your collar bones does not define it. None of your physical characteristics can determine if you are pretty or not. Again with the cliches- but the truth. I could go on a big rant about how today's society is teaching the wrong values but I digress.

If you are constantly living by these made up standards of what you have to do or what you have to look like then you are just running yourself to death. Hundreds of girls see pictures of celebrities everyday and wish to look like them. I was obsessed with Britney Spears when I was younger. I wished I could be pretty like her. Today you see the thigh gap craze. Girls starve themselves to lose inches of the circumference of their thighs just so their legs won't touch!! How crazy? Thigh gaps are something you are born into. You cannot control that! These standards of "beautiful" are ridiculous and unrealistic to say the least. No matter if you are tall short 100 or 300 pounds- you are BEAUTIFUL and you have worth!! Tell yourself everyday this until one day you will wake up and realize that you have one life and you don't want to spend time hating yourself. Love who you are. Don't let anything hold you back.

There are so many fantastic people out there that will accept you for you. If you struggle with body image; find someone who is going to lift you higher- not bring you down. If you struggle with dealing with your feelings and your thoughts- there are so many people wanting to listen to what you have to say! You just have to take that first leap of faith into something. Insecurities are not just going to disappear- and you can't think that they will and then you will be perfect. You have to love yourself despite your insecurities. You have to love others despite their insecurities. Don't change for anyone. Love yourself.


complete revamp.

It's been a while since I have done this whole blogging thing and I can honestly say that I have missed it. It was such a great way to let out whatever I had inside of me out and translate my emotions into words.

After months of being absent from the blog I thought that it would best for me to delete it...which I did. But, if you are reading this you know that I am back and I am better than ever.

A lot has changed since I have written, but I don't have the time or the effort to put all of it down and document it. It would just be a long, boring monotone piece that no one would even dare to read past the second paragraph. Something like you would read in school.

I have been encouraged by friends to not delete the blog and to continue you forward with what I was working with. When I first started blogging a year ago, criticism was not hard to find. I mean, think about it. Who would want to read my blog? Life for me is just so uninteresting. I was discouraged and just gave up. My intentions with blogging the first time around was not the quality of the post or anything along those lines, but the amount of readers and people who knew that I was now a self proclaimed "blogger". Looking back I now question myself why I was so concerned with who was reading or how many followers that I had attained. I really do love to write. I am not always the best at it but its something that no one can take away from me. So why didn't I just write? It was simple.

It may not sound like a big deal, but the premise of what happened isn't just about blogging. People, myself included, spend so much time out of each and everyday thinking about what are people are thinking of them or what they are doing or what their reactions are going to be, instead truly focusing on doing things that make them happy. If you are consistently holding yourself back from doing things that you love, then when you sit and are trying to figure out why you aren't happy, you should realize that it could be the people you are surrounding yourself with. Why continue to do things that aren't going to build yourself up? Don't become consumed with the world around you is basically what I am getting at. BE YOU. I know that is beyond cliche but its the truth. You are put on this Earth for such a limited amount of time. Why would you want to waste it doing anything but what you love and what makes you happy?

Happiness is not found in other peoples opinions of you.