loving with insecurities

I have been tossing the idea around my head all day today on whether or not I was going to follow through and actually write a post on insecurities; mainly because it's a tricky topic to cover. Everyone has at least one thing- if not multiple things- they are insecure about. You may or may not be able to tell this by knowing and/or conversing with this person- but I can guarantee that one is there.

Once you learn that you cannot hide from your insecurities. If you are insecure about something- good!!!!! That is what is making you human. You just have to own and embrace those. Anyone who uses these insecurities against you is NOT worth your time. One of my friends posted something on instagram last night about an 8 year old girl telling her she was not pretty because "you cannot see your collar bones". I don't know what she thinks is pretty but being able to see your collar bones does not define it. None of your physical characteristics can determine if you are pretty or not. Again with the cliches- but the truth. I could go on a big rant about how today's society is teaching the wrong values but I digress.

If you are constantly living by these made up standards of what you have to do or what you have to look like then you are just running yourself to death. Hundreds of girls see pictures of celebrities everyday and wish to look like them. I was obsessed with Britney Spears when I was younger. I wished I could be pretty like her. Today you see the thigh gap craze. Girls starve themselves to lose inches of the circumference of their thighs just so their legs won't touch!! How crazy? Thigh gaps are something you are born into. You cannot control that! These standards of "beautiful" are ridiculous and unrealistic to say the least. No matter if you are tall short 100 or 300 pounds- you are BEAUTIFUL and you have worth!! Tell yourself everyday this until one day you will wake up and realize that you have one life and you don't want to spend time hating yourself. Love who you are. Don't let anything hold you back.

There are so many fantastic people out there that will accept you for you. If you struggle with body image; find someone who is going to lift you higher- not bring you down. If you struggle with dealing with your feelings and your thoughts- there are so many people wanting to listen to what you have to say! You just have to take that first leap of faith into something. Insecurities are not just going to disappear- and you can't think that they will and then you will be perfect. You have to love yourself despite your insecurities. You have to love others despite their insecurities. Don't change for anyone. Love yourself.